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How to Talk to Girls on Tinder

How to Talk to Girls on Tinder

The Art of Tinder Talk: Everything You Need to Know to Get the Date

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There are lots of things that are chronically misunderstood by men, but in today’s culture, how to talk to girls on a dating app like Tinder might be one of the worst.

Not only are you primarily interacting with strangers that you know close to nothing about, but there are so many of them to swipe on that taking any single one seriously and treating them like what they are – which is: a real-live human person – can feel not only daunting, but frankly, impossible.

What you’re left with is a group of frazzled online dating burnouts handing their phones off to their friends to be spared the exhaustion of the actual Tindering process.

But for every few dozen boring or bad Tinder conversations, there’s a really good one that makes the whole experience, well, kinda worth it. And if you know what you’re doing, you can be that one shining example that all the other guys are jealous of. Here’s how:

How to Start a Conversation on Tinder

The rules of online dating dictate that, as the man, it’s probably on you to make the first move and start the conversation. We’re sorry, but that’s just the way it is, and you’ll probably find out that most of your matches won’t message you if you don’t message them first. So how do you go about making a great first impression? We’ll get into the specifics later, but for now, here are some good general rules to follow:

  • Tailor your opening message to her bio (including her pictures & interests)
  • Be bubbly and upbeat
  • Avoid generic opening messages, since she’ll see hundreds of these
  • Don’t be crass, hypersexual or vulgar
  • Steer the conversation towards going on an actual date

Remember that having the girl swipe right on you isn’t a victory; it’s just the first step. Continue reading How to Talk to Girls on Tinder